Steps 1,2 & 3 for Communicating your needs and goals

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Have you ever initiated a difficult conversation only to realize after it is finished that you didn’t fully talk about the issue that you went there to discuss in the first place? Funny how that can happen…but not so funny how you may have felt afterwards. Confused, rejected and even diminished since you initiated the discussion to talk about something … Read More

Expanding Your Heart in Conflict

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“It’s kind of bittersweet. The human spirit is not measured by the size of the act, but by the size of the heart”                       – Yakov Smirnoff Just imagine for a minute that you want to try and make amends with someone who you are feeling angry towards or you … Read More

Stepmom strategy: avoid being stabbed in the heart

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Stepmother Isabel: “Look down the road to her wedding. I’m in a room alone with her, fixing her veil, fluffing her dress, telling her no women has ever looked so beautiful. And my fear is she’ll think ” I wish my mom were here.” Biomother Jackie: “And my fear is…she won’t” Quote from the movie script Stepmom (1998) Being a … Read More

Eliminate Communication Roadblocks Series- Part 1

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You have most likely heard the saying “Communication is a two way street” which is absolutely true.  However, I happen to like Eleanore Roosevelt’s version of this saying which was ” Understanding is a two-way street”. We can communicate our needs, wants and thoughts all day long but if we are not communicating it in a way that the other … Read More

7 Destructive Bad Communication Habits

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We may mean well when we share our opinions with someone (even if they didn’t ask for it) and most of us have been guilty of moralizing others which is when we tell the people what they ‘should’ do, think or feel. The fact of the matter is, you and I have spent years forming communication habits that don’t serve … Read More